There are a number of reasons why people use drugs. They may use them casually for the thrill or to fight-off boredom, they may use them to “self-medicate”, or they may continue to use them simply because they’ve become addicted and can’t stop. Often times, people begin using drugs for entirely different reasons to why they continue using them. People who use drugs to “self-medicate” often use them as a way to avoid painful thoughts and emotions. In these cases, learning other ways to manage their emotions is the first step to being free from drug dependence. It is also important to learn strategies to use to manage cravings and thoughts that lead to reusing drugs.
How to Help a Loved One with Alcohol and Substance Use Problems
Prepare for the Conversation
As you prepare to start a conversation about substance use with your loved one, it is crucial
to be well-prepared. Consider seeking advice from a professional to ensure that you
approach the conversation in a helpful and non-confrontational manner.
Be Mindful About Privacy
Choose a quiet, private place for your conversation. It’s easier to discuss sensitive topics
when you’re in an environment where you won’t be interrupted. This will also show your loved
one that you respect their privacy.
Choose Your Timing
Timing is everything. Start the conversation when your loved one is calm and not affected by
substances. This will increase the chances of having a productive discussion.
Don’t Make Assumptions
It’s okay to ask directly about substance use, but try not to make any assumptions. Making
assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and may make your loved one defensive.
Use “I” Statements
Express your concerns using “I” statements, such as “I feel worried. ” This can help prevent
your loved one from feeling blamed or criticized, which could make them more receptive to
your concerns.
Try to Open the Discussion
Ask open-ended questions to encourage your loved one to share their thoughts and feelings.
Be willing to listen without judging or lecturing. This can help them feel more comfortable
discussing their substance use.
Highlight the Availability of Support
Let your loved one know that there is effective help available and offer your ongoing support,
if you are willing and able. This can give them hope and motivate them to seek help.
What If They Don’t Want to Change?
If your loved one is not ready to address their substance use, encourage them to learn how to
reduce their risk of harm. Remember, change is a process, and it may take time for your loved
one to be ready to make a change.
Remember to Look After Yourself
Supporting a loved one in this process can be extremely challenging. If your loved one has a
negative reaction upon hearing your concerns, this does not mean that the conversation was
futile. It may take some time for them to process what you said.
Remember, you can’t force someone to change. It’s important to take time out for your own
needs. Get support by talking to a professional, friends, and/or joining a support group. Your
well-being is important too.