There are a number of reasons why people turn to alcohol, drugs, or the misuse of prescription medication. Some use them recreationally for excitement or to combat boredom, others use them as a form of “self-medication”. They may continue to use them simply because they’ve become addicted and can’t stop. Often, the reasons for initial drug or alcohol use differ from the reasons for continued use. Indeed, some people are prescribed medications for legitimate reasons by their doctor (e.g., painkillers following surgery, benzodiazepines for acute anxiety, sleeping pills for sleeping difficulties) and, somewhere along the line, they needed increasingly more to get the same effect; thereby finding themselves dependent on the medication, perhaps even fearing ceasing use due to the uncomfortable withdrawal symptoms that would follow.

Those who use drugs or alcohol to “self-medicate” often do so to evade painful thoughts and emotions. In these instances, the first step towards freedom from drug or alcohol dependence is learning alternative ways to manage their emotions. It’s also crucial to learn strategies to manage cravings and thoughts that lead to drug or alcohol reuse. This is where addiction therapy plays a vital role.

How to Assist a Loved One with Alcohol and Substance Use Issues

Preparing for the Conversation

As you gear up to initiate a conversation about substance use with your loved one, it’s crucial to be well-prepared. Consider seeking advice from a drug and alcohol counselling professional to ensure that you approach the conversation in a supportive and non-confrontational manner.

Respecting Privacy

Choose a quiet, private place for your conversation. Discussing sensitive topics is easier in an environment where you won’t be interrupted. This also demonstrates to your loved one that you respect their privacy.

Choosing the Right Timing

Timing is crucial. Initiate the conversation when your loved one is calm and not under the influence of substances. This increases the chances of having a productive discussion.

Avoiding Assumptions

It’s okay to ask directly about substance use, but avoid making assumptions. Assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and may make your loved one defensive.

Using “I” Statements

Express your concerns using “I” statements, such as “I feel worried.” This can help prevent your loved one from feeling blamed or criticised, which could make them more receptive to your concerns.

Encouraging Open Discussion

Ask open-ended questions to encourage your loved one to share their thoughts and feelings. Be willing to listen without judging or lecturing. This can help them feel more comfortable discussing their substance use.

Highlighting the Availability of Support, Including Addiction Therapy

Let your loved one know that effective help is available, such as drug and alcohol counselling, and offer your ongoing support, if you are willing and able. This can provide them with hope and motivate them to seek help.

What If They Don’t Want to Change?

If your loved one is not ready to address their substance use, encourage them to learn how to reduce their risk of harm. Remember, change is a process, and it may take time for your loved one to be ready to start addiction therapy.

Self-Care is Important

Supporting a loved one through this process can be extremely challenging. If your loved one has a negative reaction upon hearing your concerns, this does not mean that the conversation was futile. It may take some time for them to process what you said.

Remember, you can’t force someone to change. It’s important to take time out for your own needs. Seek support by talking to a professional, friends, and/or joining a support group. Your well-being is important too.

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